Last Sunday was a rough day for both me and my son (Ahas). Ahas ended up loosing all wrestling matches in the tournament. I have clearly set both of our expectation not for the wins but for doing his best. I was disappointed because I felt like Ahas was not doing his best. After the tournament I asked him why didn’t he gave his best. That made him so upset. He repeatedly told me that he gave his best. That night I had time to reflect. I came up with better ideas for dealing with his losses.
I should not be the judge of whether Ahas gave his best or not. I can question him to ask if he gave his best and should be ready accept his answer.
I should be appreciative of his effort to get out there and wrestle.
We (Both me and Ahas) need to come up with
SMART goals for him to achieve during tournaments.
S - Specific
M - Measurable
A - Agreed Upon
R - Realistic
T - Time based
I'm going to give these ideas a try for coming tournament.